... is what Gary says when things don't turn out as expected and instead of looking forward in a "no use crying over spilt milk" kind of a way like I tend to do in a probably equally annoying way, he looks backwards at ways in which the situation could have been avoided if only we had foreseen this particular outcome.
The situation I am currently concerned about could have been neatly avoided if only we had had all three babies closer together instead of having Edward seven whole years after the other two - or had another one a year or two after Edward, or (strike this one off the list straightaway!) not had Edward at all.
The problem is that now that Lucy has left our nest and Sam is likely to in the next few months as well, poor Edward will be left on his own with no day to day sibling support/rivalry. He and Sam seem to have been getting on really well together lately too - they enjoy the same computer games and movies and whatnot and it's been really nice.
You might be thinking that Edward will be looking forward to the undivided attention of his parents. Well he and Gary still play World of Warcraft a lot together and have long unintelligible conversations about that which is good, but now he is a teenager most else of what we do is officially boring and he would rather stay home and play on the computer than be seen out with us.
We have always enjoyed family holidays but in recent years it has just been us and Edward and sometimes Nanny which has been fun, but now he is growing out of enjoying those trips too. We have booked a trip to Washington DC for over the Easter break and we are worried about him enjoying that even though there is tons to see and do there. Let's hope when the time comes he will secretly find things impressive even if it doesn't show on his face!
After our break we only have another four-and-a-bit years to go until he graduates from High School. If he follows the example of the other two then I don't think he is going to be a bad teenager, but I think it is going to be a bit harder for him without his big brother and sister there ready with advice on how to ask someone to the Prom, or what classes he should take and which are the nicest teachers and so on. ("and so on" covering the issues of teenage life that you might need advice on but would never, ever in a million years ask your parents about !)
So, dear readers, do you have any advice for us for getting it right with that one last little fledgling? Have you had one of your own, or were you the last one left at home? I would love to hear from you!